September 27, 2012

Should I Feel Guilty About My Beauty Routine?

I'll admit, sometimes I feel a little guilty for the fact that I do spend so much time putting on makeup and fiddling with my hair in the morning.  It takes me minimum 20 minutes of bathroom prep time before I step out to take my kids to school, the grocery store, or even the gas station where sometimes no one will even glance at me.  Why do I even bother right?  

{Gwen and her cute family, via}

Luckily after reading Gwen Stefani's article (mom of 2) in the September issue of Harper's Bazaar about why she wears makeup, I feel better about my beauty routine.  She is quoted as saying this,

"I've always been a girl who loves to dress up, " says Gwen.  "I already put my makeup on twice today: I put it on to take my kid to school, and then I went home, washed my face, and put it on again to have lunch with you." She even wears it at home because "I like to make my husband like me more," she says, laughing, "and he likes it when I'm wearing makeup."

Can I get an AMEN!!  Gwen and I would get along just swimmingly, because this is me to a T.  Yes, I have been known to do one neutral makeup look in the a.m., then decide I am feeling more drama come 3pm and add more.  And I don't know that my husband would totally admit this, but I KNOW he likes me in makeup - he always compliments a good smokey eye when I wear it.

{She is a prime example of how a good red lip can pull a whole look together.}

When I run into some other mothers in town who wear little to no makeup on a daily basis (and good for them for having the confidence, really), and they see me in full on mascara, foundation, and eye brows just running to pick up dog food at Target, I ALWAYS get, "HOW do you have the time and energy to put on makeup with 3 kids in the house??"  And in my mind, I feel like they're really saying "WHY do you ignore your kids and the dishes just to put on your face?? Don't you have more important things to do?" or "That's pretty vain of you."  

Now, I know most of them aren't thinking the latter and it's probably just my slight guilty conscious creeping in that I put on one more Dora The Explorer cartoon so that I can finish contouring my face when maybe I should be reading a 2nd book to my daughter.  But since I am a makeup artist by trade, and truly enjoy the art and process of just applying makeup in general, this is what I do to relax and give myself more confidence.  Some women take 45 minutes a day to exercise/yoga to clear their mind and feel better, I take 45 minutes to figure out what eye makeup and lip color combo I want to rock with my outfit.

As a mother, I think it's all about doing whatever makes you happy in those few minutes you get to yourself during the day.  Whether it be exercising, reading a book, or putting on your makeup, you should do what helps you mentally be able to tackle the day.  

I also hope that as my daughter gets older that she sees that my long winded makeup and beauty routine translates into enhancing my natural self and that I'm not actually trying to change into a different person.  To me, makeup is all about self improvement, and who can argue with that??  I also like this quote I read in the same magazine, written by author Elizabeth Wurtzel about her reasoning behind it being okay to spend a few extra minutes on ones appearance rather than just letting it all go to you-know-where...

"Looking great is a matter of feminism.  No liberated woman would misrepresent the cause by appearing less than hale and happy."

I'm interested to know if I'm in the majority or minority - How much time do you spend on your beauty routine in the morning? 


PBunnieP said...

I'm so glad you posted this because it's often something I think to myself as well (and will be something I continue to ponder once I get married and actually have kiddos of my own). But even amongst my friends whom would rather take sleep that extra 20min than put on their lady face I seem out of place...fussy...possibly even *gasp* --VAIN. But I'm a beauty blogger, I love being girly, being a little "high maintenance", I love the products, I love them's like my own little morning ritual that makes me feel happy. And you know what, I aspire to be beauty mommy like you in the future.

L.M. said...

Must say you are not the only one! For me it depends, If I am going to the grocery I will just wear my bb and a large pair of sunnies and thats it, in any other case I spend at least 20 min in the bathroom!!!


I will go to the store without makeup! However, since I have been struggling with acne, I will at least have on concealer and a little powder! I always do my skincare routine morning and night so during the day I always have sunscreen on...I think you should take a little time out for yourself each day no matter what you have going on in your life! You are still an individual who needs a little pampering!! It's good for the soul ^.^

Michele said...

You should not feel guilty about your beauty routine. I just had baby #2 this past July and I sometimes feel too overwhelmed and lazy to bother, but once I do I feel so good! For me, when I look good I feel good. I know my husband likes it too when I take the time to put on makeup..I wish I knew more about putting on makeup and trying different products, which actually led me to your blog. So good for you, what's another Dora show, or in my case, Mickey Mouse Clubhouse!

Ileana said...

Don't feel guilty!! I admire that you have the ENERGY to get it all done :) I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE family even calls me a collector, LOL! That being said, you will usually finds me in sweats, ponytail and the time I have the kids ready to go Im just...done...sigh...maybe I should get some massive B12 vitamins ;)

Anonymous said...

Please. You should not feel bad. I love wearing make-up and now that I am in my 40's I need it to even out my skin tone. It takes me about 20 minutes to do make-up, but my overall routine in the a.m. takes a long time because I wash my hair and then I try to let it air dry some before I blow dry. It's a pain, but I can't go a day without washing my hair, too oily.

Fanny said...

Totally get you!!
I get the same question from other moms at the playground or school!
I am an esthetician and a make up artist and I keep telling them that besides LOVING make-up this is my way to do "advertising". ;-)

Jennifer of JennySue Makeup said...

@PBunnieP - what a sweet compliment, thank you so much!! And hooray for the girly girls and the morning beauty rituals!
@LM - yes, the BB creams are a time savior for real!
@PDXbeautiful - Makeup and pampering are good for the soul - I totally agree!!
@Michele- Mickey Mouse Clubhouse is also in our rotation as well:) And congrats on baby #2!!
@Ileana - Ha, yes energy is necessary for implementing the beauty routine for sure. Lots of coffee, lots;)
@Fanny - complete advertising for a MUA!! You totally get me;)
@Anonymous- oh thank goodness I don't have to wash my hair everyday bc that would tack on waaay more time to my beauty routine!!

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Amen! indeed. Thanks for the inspiration...I shall don my YSL red lippy for lunch with me mum!

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